On an MTV special aired in 2000, young interviewees were asked to confess the worse thing they were ever told during a romantic breakup. One person tearfully responded "that I suck in bed. " More recently, an acquaintance of mine admitted to his new girlfriend that he "has a mean streak. " She decided not to date him after that. Another memorable and painful example of openness occurred years ago when I served as a member of a suicide intervention team. I was called to a very disturbing scene in an upscale neighborhood to console a woman who was threaten ing to take her life on the lawn in front of her children. Her husband had just confessed his long-term affair to her that morning and she felt that her world was coming apart. Fortunately, she did not take her life but was left with the humiliation of haVing her neighbors know about her private troubles. The question these examples bring to mind is, "Why do people so often reveal potentially stigmatizing personal information to others?" The reader probably has an intuitive answer to this question already. It can seem like such a burden-even torture-to keep secrets from other people. Hiding such things as feelings of discontent from a boyfriend or girlfriend, violations of the law from close friends, and indiscretions from employers can be alienating. People want others to know them; therefore they often end up disclosing self-incriminating information.
Erscheinungsdatum: 18.09.2012

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Kelly, Anita E.

Springer Science+Business Media, LLC

Springer US : Imprint : Springer

Springer London, Limited

˜Theœ plenum series in social/clinical psychology, New York Ann Arbor, 2002

Plenum Series in Social/Clinical Psychology, Boston, MA, 2002

Plenum series in social/clinical psychology, New York, 2012

Softcover reprint of the original 1st ed. 2002, 2012

Place of publication not identified, 2002

United States, United States of America

Springer Nature, New York, NY, 2012

Sep 18, 2012

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Source title: The Psychology of Secrets (The Springer Series in Social Clinical Psychology)

"On an MTV special aired in 2000, young interviewees were asked to confess the worse thing they were ever told during a romantic breakup. One person tearfully responded "that I suck in bed." More recently, an acquaintance of mine admitted to his new girlfriend that he "has a mean streak." She decided not to date him after that. Another memorable and painful example of openness occurred years ago when I served as a member of a suicide intervention team. I was called to a very disturbing scene in an upscale neighborhood to console a woman who was threatenƯ ing to take her life on the lawn in front of her children. Her husband had just confessed his long-term affair to her that morning and she felt that her world was coming apart. Fortunately, she did not take her life but was left with the humiliation of haVing her neighbors know about her private troubles. The question these examples bring to mind is, "Why do people so often reveal potentially stigmatizing personal information to others?" The reader probably has an intuitive answer to this question already. It can seem like such a burden-even torture-to keep secrets from other people. Hiding such things as feelings of discontent from a boyfriend or girlfriend, violations of the law from close friends, and indiscretions from employers can be alienating. People want others to know them; therefore they often end up disclosing self-incriminating information"--Font no determinada

Front Matter....Pages i-xiii
The Nature of Secrecy....Pages 1-22
Individual Differences in Secret Keeping....Pages 23-39
Why Secrecy is Linked to Problems....Pages 41-65
Health Benefits of Revealing....Pages 67-79
What is it about Revealing Secrets that is Beneficial?....Pages 81-99
Secrecy and Openness in Psychotherapy....Pages 101-127
Why Openness May Not Be Therapeutic....Pages 129-159
Dilemmas to Revealing Secrets and the Role of the Confidant....Pages 161-186
When to Reveal Personal Secrets in a Particular Relationship....Pages 187-217
Back Matter....Pages 219-263

The public revelation of what were once considered extremely private matters is becoming a new social norm. Has this movement toward openness gone too far? Are there negative consequences to revealing secrets? When and why is it helpful to reveal secrets? What can be done to alleviate the burden of secrecy? Will the anguish of keeping a secret pass in time? What factors should enter into deciding to reveal a secret? This book addresses these questions

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