Free Your Mind is the definitive practical guide for gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth — and their families, teachers, counselors and friends. For too long, gay youth have wanted to be themselves and to feel good about it, but most have been isolated, afraid, harassed, or worse. Their very existence has been ignored, whispered about, or swept under the rug.
But each day more and more lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth are standing up, speaking out, breaking down stereotypes, demanding rights and recognition — shining. In this book, young people share their joy and their pain, their hopes and fears, the formidable obstacles they have faced and overcome, and the exciting opportunities they have discovered.
Free Your Mind speaks to the basic aspects of the lives of gay, lesbian and bisexual youth: Self-Discovery; Friends and Lovers; Family; School; Spirituality; Community. Alive with the voices of more than fifty young people, rich in accurate information and positive practical advice, Free Your Mind talks about how to come out, deal with problems, make healthy choices about relationships and sex, connect with other gay youth and supportive adults, and take pride and participate in the gay and lesbian community. Free Your Mind also presents detailed guidance for adults who want to make the world safer for lesbian, gay and bisexual youth.

Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies

Ellen Bass and Kate Kaufman

HarperPerennial, Division of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., 10 East 53rd Street, New York, NY 10022 ($14)

Longman Publishing

Harper Perennial

United States, United States of America

First edition, New York, 1996

1st, First Edition, US, 1996

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Includes bibliographical references (p. 367-400) and index.

subject: Gay youth; Gay youth; Lesbian youth; Lesbian youth; Coming out (Sexual orientation)

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topic: Gay youth; Gay youth; Lesbian youth; Lesbian youth; Coming out (Sexual orientation)

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Bookmarks:
1. (p1) ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
2. (p2) INTRODUCTION
3. (p3) PART 1: SELF-DISCOVERY
3.1. (p4) 1 We are everywhere
3.2. (p16) 2 Coming into your own
3.3. (p27) 3 Reaching out
3.3.1. (p5) Who Is Gay?
3.3.2. (p6) What Does Being Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual Mean?
3.3.3. (p7) The Spectrum of Sexuality
3.3.4. (p8) Bisexual People
3.3.5. (p9) Why Are People Gay?
3.3.6. (p10) Is It a Choice?
3.3.7. (p11) Homophobia
3.3.8. (p12) People of Color
3.3.9. (p13) Transsexual People
3.3.10. (p14) It's Not a Lifestyle, It's a Life
3.3.11. (p15) It's Not fust a Phase
3.3.12. (p17) Responding to the Feelings
3.3.13. (p18) Denial
3.3.14. (p19) Recognizing That You're Gay
3.3.15. (p20) Gender Roles
3.3.16. (p21) Inner Conflict
3.3.17. (p22) Defining Yourself
3.3.18. (p23) What If I'm Not Sure
3.3.19. (p24) Self-Acceptance
3.3.20. (p25) Coming Out
3.3.21. (p26) Celebration
3.3.22. (p28) Gay Youth Support Groups
3.3.23. (p29) How to Tell If Someone Is a Good Person to Talk To
3.3.24. (p30) Talk Lines
3.3.25. (p31) Pen Pals-Computer Bulletin Boards
3.3.26. (p32) Books, Magazines, Music, and Movies
3.3.27. (p33) How to Show You 're Gay Friendly: For All Allies of Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth
3.4. (p34) 4 If i live, i'll be great: making it through hard times
4. (p48) PART 2: FRIENDS AND LOVERS
4.1. (p49) 5 Friends
4.1.1. (p50) Coming Out to Friends
4.1.2. (p51) The Costs of Hiding
4.1.3. (p52) Working It Out with Friends
4.1.4. (p53) Advice for the Friends of Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth
4.1.5. (p54) Making New Friends
4.2. (p55) 6 Love
4.2.1. (p56) I've Got a Crush on You
4.2.2. (p57) Meeting Boyfriends and Girlfriends
4.2.3. (p58) Dating
4.2.4. (p59) Flaunting
4.2.5. (p60) Healthy Relationships
4.2.6. (p61) Breaking Up
4.2.7. (p62) Get out of Abusive Relationships
4.2.8. (p63) Commitment
4.3. (p64) 7 Sex
4.3.1. (p65) The foy of Going Slowly
4.3.2. (p66) Don't Do Anything You Don't Want to Do
4.3.3. (p67) Talk About It
4.3.4. (p68) What's Love Got to Do with It?
4.3.5. (p69) The Impact of Homophobia on Sex
4.3.6. (p70) Sexual Abuse and Rape
4.3.7. (p71) Exploitation
4.3.8. (p72) The Value of Relationships That Aren't Sexual
4.3.9. (p73) Positive First Sexual Experiences
4.4. (p74) 8 HIV, AIDS, and safer sex
5. (p83) PART 3: FAMILY
5.1. (p84) 9 Coming out to your family
5.1.1. (p85) Thinking About Coming Out
5.1.2. (p86) Deciding Whether to Come Out
5.1.3. (p87) Testing the Waters
5.1.4. (p88) Don't Come Out If You'll Be in Danger
5.1.5. (p89) Coming Out with Consideration
5.1.6. (p90) Coming Out to Brothers and Sisters
5.2. (p91) 10 Your family's response
5.2.1. (p92) What Is a Good Reaction?
5.2.2. (p93) Weathering a Bad Response
5.2.3. (p94) What to Do If You're in Danger
5.2.4. (p95) Responses of Brothers and Sisters
5.2.5. (p96) It'll Kill Your Grandmother
5.2.6. (p97) Coming Out Issues Over Time
5.2.7. (p98) Girlfriends and Boyfriends
5.2.8. (p99) Family Events
5.3. (p100) 11 Our pride and joy: for parents of gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth
6. (p112) PART 4: SCHOOL
6.1. (p113) 12 School daze
6.1.1. (p114) The Worst of Times
6.1.2. (p115) To Be or Not To Be...Out at School
6.1.3. (p116) Coping and Getting Help
6.1.4. (p117) Ooooh Child, Things Are Gonna Get Easier
6.1.5. (p118) The lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Bill of Education Rights
6.2. (p119) 13 Making schools safe for lesbian, gay, and bisexual students: for educators
6.2.1. (p120) What You Can Do as an Individual
6.2.2. (p121) Taking a Stand Against Harassment
6.2.3. (p122) A Comprehensive Program for School-Based Support
6.2.4. (p123) PROJECT 10: The Model for All School Support Programs
6.2.5. (p124) Separate Schools
6.2.6. (p125) The Challenge of Coming Out
6.3. (p126) 14 Strategies for building a support program: for activists and educators
7. (p137) PART 5: SPIRITUALITY
7.1. (p138) 15 Religious life
7.1.1. (p139) The Destructive Impact of Religious Condemnation
7.1.2. (p140) Praying to God to Be Straight
7.1.3. (p141) Positive Experiences with Religion
7.1.4. (p142) Finding Your Place in a Faith Community
7.1.5. (p143) Very Brief Responses When You Don't Want to Engage in Debate
7.1.6. (p144) The Role of Religion in Working for Social Justice
7.1.7. (p145) Sex and Religion
7.1.8. (p146) Finding your own spirtual connection
7.2. (p147) 16 The bible
7.2.1. (p148) "God's on Our Side
7.2.2. (p149) What the Bible Says About Homosexuality
7.2.3. (p150) The Tree of Life
7.3. (p151) 17 Making changes in churches and temples: for clergy and congregations
8. (p156) PART 6: COMMUNITY
8.1. (p157) 18 Living in your community
8.1.1. (p158) Community Involvement
8.1.2. (p159) Getting Help from Your Community
8.1.3. (p160) On the Streets
8.1.4. (p161) When Social Service Agencies Are Homophobic
8.1.5. (p162) Psychiatric Abuse
8.1.6. (p163) Groups for Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Youth
8.1.7. (p164) The Hetrick-Martin Institute
8.1.8. (p165) District 202
8.1.9. (p166) Youth Services of the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Community Services Center
8.2. (p167) 19 Creating supportive community groups: for service providers and allies
8.2.1. (p168) What You Can Do
8.2.2. (p169) Know That There Are Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Youth in Your Group
8.2.3. (p170) The Positive Effect on All Youth
8.2.4. (p171) Making Changes Isn't Easy
8.2.5. (p172) The Need for Supportive Foster Families
8.2.6. (p173) One Step at a Time
8.3. (p174) 20 The gay, lesbian, and bisexual community
8.3.1. (p175) We're Not fust Like Everyone Else
8.3.2. (p176) Not fust One Way to Be Gay
8.3.3. (p177) We Are Family
8.3.4. (p178) The History of the Gay and Lesbian Community
8.3.5. (p179) Where We Are Now
8.3.6. (p180) Youth Activism
8.4. (p181) 21 Standing up for lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth: for the adult gay community
9. (p187) RESOURCES
10. (p188) INDEX

theme: Gay youth; Gay youth; Lesbian youth; Lesbian youth; Coming out (Sexual orientation)

Gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth face formidable challenges, but are beginning to proclaim their worth and power and to assert their rightful places in the world. Being lesbian or gay means that a person's primary romantic, emotional, physical, and sexual attractions are with someone of the same sex. Bisexual people have these attractions to both sexes. This guide for young people includes the experiences of other gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth as a help in explaining the processes young people go through and how they can make it easier to develop. The book is divided into six parts that speak to the basic aspects of the lives of gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth: (1) "Self Discovery"; (2) "Friends and Lovers"; (3) "Family"; (4) "School"; (5) "Spirituality"; and (6) "Community." Section 4 focuses on the ways in which schools have been hostile environments for the young person of gay, lesbian, or bisexual orientation, as well as the ways some schools are beginning to change to become more accepting and supportive of gay youth. Programs that teach tolerance are being introduced and support groups are being formed. Numerous sidebars, quotes, and anecdotes offer supportive commentary to help the young gay person realize that there are millions of young people in similar situations. A list of 212 resources suggests organizations, hot lines, online services, and publications that can help. (SLD)

Includes bibliographical references (p. 367-400) and index

2023-06-28